As I ponder over the thoughts that Mary and Martha might have had as their brother Lazarus was sick and near death, I can only imagine their sense of urgency, heartache, and wonder. We read in John 11, the sisters sent to Jesus a message about their brother’s health, believing that Jesus has power over sickness. Surprisingly instead of coming quickly, Jesus remained where He was for 2 days and meanwhile Lazarus past away. Did Mary and Martha think Jesus forgot or that Jesus was late? Did they plan for the results to be different? Did the sisters wonder why Jesus allowed Lazarus to die? Did they ask questions and demand answers? If I was in their shoes, I am sure I would have these thoughts. Don’t these emotions sound familiar as we, adoptive families, wonder why we wait? Or question God’s timing in bringing our son or daughter home? We wonder why this step or that process is staying where it is for an extra 2 days, weeks, or months.
John 11 reminds me every time that it is ALL ABOUT PERSPECTIVE. It’s all about a perspective that is not of this world and one we can only be given through God’s grace. It is an eternal perspective. It is realizing that the words Jesus spoke, “This illness does not lead to death. It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it” (John 11:4) must be central in our lives. We must realize that the glory of God is worth the journey we walk through adoption. The moments where we wonder what is happening, we must hold fast our confidence in the Lord. It’s an eternal perspective that will carry us through the times of uncertainty, change, and the burden of urgency.We must know God’s character of love, goodness, and grace and believe that he plans all things for our good. We must walk each day in the light, as scripture says, “If anyone walks in the day, he does not stumble, because he sees the light of this world.” (John 11:9) Because at the end of our journey, Jesus will prove his timing is always best. Although the disciples and the sisters thought Jesus was late, He showed himself faithful when He called Lazarus to come out.
Be encouraged as you walk through along the path of your adoption and remember that it’s all about perspective.. an eternal perspective. A perspective that truly believes God’s timing is never late. The adoption journey is full of emotions, hard decisions, uncertain answers, and possible changes; however, we can humbly make it through as we rest in Christ.
Logan Gibbons, International Adoption Specialist